You Are Not A Failure - The Lifesaving Support of A Doula for a Breastfeeding Mother
I have an important, deeply emotional story to share with you tonight. Recently, a Southern Kentucky family received an emergency, possibly life saving, breastfeeding consultation from a member of the My Sunshine Birth Network. The mother bravely shared her story with a national source, thankfully bringing much needed attention to an issue so many families face, with no idea where to go. Many still don't know this issue even exists, despite being a risk all newborns face...
This story has a positive beginning. Jordan Talley, the mom and author of the story, gives birth to a healthy 6lb 8oz baby girl named Lucy. Her labor wasn't lengthy, Lucy's vitals checked out and she seemed to be nursing successfully in the hospital. However, before being discharged from the hospital, Jordan began to notice some pain while feeding. She is then provided advice regarding how to get a deeper latch. All seemed well, so the family was released to go home with Lucy at a weight of 6lbs 1oz. This was a few ounces less than at birth, but was not considered an abnormal weight loss for a newborn.
Only one month postpartum, Lucy's weight had rapidly declined. Suddenly, this little one's story was not so positive. Despite seeing the pediatrician regularly, she was still failing to return to her birth weight of 6lb 8oz. It became obvious then, that something was wrong.
Here is what Jordan wrote about that painful and terrifying 1-month check up:
That is how we (the My Sunshine Birth Network) became aware of Jordan and Lucy. Sitting together during a network meeting, our Network Birth Photographer, Samantha Steen, interrupted the meeting with urgency in her voice to say: "Amanda, a local Photographer, Jordan Talley, is online right now, desperately trying to find help with breastfeeding her newborn. At one month old, she's not gaining. I'm sending her your number!"
Sam continued to explain by sharing with us the concerning information in Jordan's post about her 1-month check up. We were all very worried for Lucy. That evening, we were checking in on our group-chat, all of us wondering if Amanda was able to reach out to Jordan. That's when a picture appeared that changed everything.
Jordan had shared the photo of baby Lucy at 1-month old and it was so heartbreaking that Amanda immediately said, "I have to see this baby no matter what!" We all followed along as Amanda was able to give us one positive update after the other! Baby Lucy sucked down the bottle of donor milk Amanda had brought her, and fell fast asleep content and relaxed. Before that she had observed baby at the breast and felt very confident there was no supply issue. She saw a lot of signs that pointed to a tongue and lip tie though. When she told us that she had referred Jordan to a professional capable of diagnosing and revising the ties immediately we all sighed in relief, knowing this sweet family would be ok and we all hugged our families tighter that night.
Here is what Jordan wrote about finding Amanda....
When baby Lucy had her next weight check we were relieved to know for sure that Amanda's quick action had successfully saved that family's breastfeeding relationship.
I'm so very thankful to have a lactation professional like Amanda in our network. She works tirelessly to serve local families by meeting them where they are. She supports them no matter their choices or the crossroads they may be at, while providing a level of care that is unparalleled. I've seen Amanda time and time again walk in a home or take a video chat with a family that has lost all hope and turn it around. She does this with her own personal mix of evidence based care and enthusiastic approach that instantly lifts a terrified mother and her family from a place of darkness to a place full of hope. I am so proud of Amanda and in my excitement, I could easily go on and on, but Jordan sums it up nicely...
A note from Mary
"It is my hope that this story will provide a greater awareness of the breastfeeding issues many mom's endure. Often, there isn't enough support or education provided to mothers who are already dealing with so many postpartum changes and concerns. This story is more common than many realize. Breastfeeding issues can happen with any baby. Unfortunately, there have been some 'negativity trolls' on social media, putting blame on this loving mother who has already been through enough heartache. A woman has every right to breastfeed her baby and this mother did what was right for her and her baby by following the advice of her doctors and seeking immediate assistance. I am so proud of Jordan for her strength as a breastfeeding mother and for Amanda for her quick action. If you are struggling with breastfeeding don't hesitate to reach out. You can find Amanda's information as well as the rest of the network members here."
How You Can Help
I have a favor to ask of you, my readers...head over to the Love What Matters blog and Facebook (links below) and share some love and encouragement for Jordan, Lucy and for Amanda of The Grateful Moms Doula! Then share this post far and wide, you may help save a mom who is desperately seeking help with breastfeeding...and you may even help save a life!!
A very grateful thank you to Jordan Talley for sharing her story with the world and for allowing excerpts to be shared here on the My Sunshine Birth Services blog. Please visit the link below to read Jordan's story in its entirety and to see more photos of Lucy.
- Original Blog: http://www.lovewhatmatters.com/her-eyes-were-dull-and-sunken-in-moms-warning-about-tongue-or-lip-tie-issues-with-breastfeeding-after-newborns-dramatic-weight-loss/
- Facebook Post: https://www.facebook.com/lovewhatreallymatters/posts/1974298309259224
- Photos (also captioned): Billie-Shaye Style Photography, LLC and Jordan Talley Photography + Film Co, LLC